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Who we support 

Star Support is an accommodation and community support service for LGBTIQ+ people who have experienced or are experiencing domestic abuse.

 

This page should help you work out if you are experiencing domestic abuse, whether you can access our services and which other LGBTIQ+ organisations that might be of more assistance to you. Please be mindful that the majority of services we signpost to are London-based, as this is the locality we are currently funded to serve. 

What is domestic abuse?

 

Domestic abuse (referred to as domestic violence in physically threatening cases) is abuse that is preparated by a partner, family member, guardian or carer. Although people can experience other hostile and/or abusive behaviour from others in a domestic setting, such as neighbours, landlords and friends this is not defined as domestic abuse. This is due to it not taking place within an intimate, familial or caring-based relationship.

Domestic abuse/violence can take different forms:

 

  • Emotional abuse 

  • Threats and intimidation 

  • Physical abuse 

  • Sexual Abuse 

  • Conversion practices 

  • Financial abuse
     

This might appear as a partner or family member: 

 

  • Regularly belittling you and putting you down

  • Limiting how much time you spend with friends and/or family

  • Controlling your money

  • Threatening to expose your sexuality or gender identity without your consent 

  • Monitoring your phone, conversations or location 

  • Accusing you of cheating 

  • Controlling what you present (what you wear, your hairstyles or use of makeup)

  • Destroying your personal items 

  • Making verbal threats 

  • Being physically violent 

  • Threatening to expose your migration status 

  • Forcing you to participate in drug-taking or other activity that makes you feel uncomfortable 

How do LGBTIQ+ people experience domestic abuse and is this different from a cis/het experience?

 

Anyone can experience or perpetuate domestic abuse and it is something that affects all communities. However, domestic abuse is particularly prevalent within the LGBTIQ+ community and there are differences in the way it can play out. Some examples of this are:

 

  • A bisexual, cis woman in a relationship with a straight man might experience domestic abuse from her partner, who is uncomfortable with and threatened by her bisexuality. This might cause him to limit access to her LGBTIQ+ friends, threaten her and monitor her phone.
     

  • A young trans person who has begun their transition while living in their family home may experience domestic abuse in the form of conversion practices from family members. Their family might also deny them access to gender-affirming medical care, clothes, makeup, and other items that allow them to express their gender identity. 

These nuances in experience are why it’s crucial for the LGBTIQ+ community to have access to domestic abuse services run by LGBTIQ+ people, who understand their identities, needs and relationship structures.

Who does Star Support work with?

As a new service with limited resources, we aren’t able to support everyone who approaches our service. This is due to the limitations of our current funding. In the future, we hope to expand and make our accommodation scheme accessible to those without recourse to public funds and those who are in work.

 

Star Support services have varied access requirements, so please read our criteria to establish which of our services you are suitable for:

Star Refuge

This is our accommodation scheme for LGBTIQ+ survivours of domestic abuse. To access you must:
 

  • You must Identify as LGBTIQ+
     

  • Your experience of domestic abuse must be recent or impacting your residential situation or everyday life.
     

  • Be living in London
     

  • You are required to have recourse to public funds (leave to remain within the UK)You can’t be in employment 

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Star Lounge

This is our weekly community support group for LGBTIQ+ survivours of domestic abuse. To access you must:
 

  • You must identify as LGBTIQ+
     

  • Your experience of domestic abuse must be recent or still impacting your everyday life. 
     

  • You are welcome to join if you do not have recourse to public funds (leave to remain within the UK).
     

  • However, we won’t be able to provide you with immigration advice (alternative services below).

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Femme Thursdays

This is our monthly support group for trans-feminine and non-binary people who feel they would benifit from a femme space. To access you must:
 

  • Identify as trans-feminine or non-binary.
     

  • You are not required to have experienced domestic abuse to access this group.
     

  • You must feel you want to be part of or contribute to a femme-focused space
     

  • You are welcome to join if you do not have recourse to public funds (leave to remain within the UK). However, we won’t be able to provide you with immigration advice (alternative services below).  

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Advice and advocacy

  • You must identify as LGBTIQ+
     

  • Your experience of domestic abuse must be recent or affecting your everyday life.
     

  • We cannot provide you with any immigration advice or advocacy beyond signposting to other organisations (listed below)
     

  • As we have limited capacity to provide advice and advocacy outside of our in-person services, we suggest contacting one of the organisations listed below

​​If you don’t match the criteria for our services, have a look at the alternative LGBTIQ+ organisations:


If you need advice/advocacy for domestic abuse:

 

If you are experiencing abuse within a religious or culturally conservative family setting: 

 

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If you are homeless: 

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If you are seeking asylum: 

 

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